Something I noticed recently: When I go out with people my age, or around my age, people understand that we make our own fun. A good time is what we make of it, and taking public transit is part of it. Even when we are quiet or bored, at least we are sharing the same experience.
When I go out with younger people, like people in highschool, they tend to see me as responsible for their fun. It’s a strange feeling because leaving my life in the hands of someone else is now an ancient concept to me. To be blamed for things out of my control is strange too, because I know it’s not my fault. So I have to remember that some people still need to be taken care of and I have to take their life stage into consideration.
After 3 years of being around highschoolers as a ‘small group leader’, I’m only learning now that to be a small group leader is to live life together with them, and this includes not taking many things personally as well as just doing things that need to be done. It means being a friend, and concealing the fact that we’re being an adult guardian as well. This also means not feeling the need to bring it to their attention as well and not needing recognition, because this amount of needed consideration is nobody’s fault.